Just a carefree black girl called Lady. God. nature. POC issues. music. love.
"you may forget my name, just remember my Jesus."
my natural hair journey started in the spring of 2010, when I was in 7th grade. I believe that was my last relaxer (or the last one I wanted, anyway). I specifically remember being asked sooooooo many times when I was going to “fix” my hair. as any naturalist who went trough transitioning knows, this time was pretty rough. in the winter of 2010 going into 2011, I did my big chop. I hid it with weave most of the time, but after it started getting too hot for back length hair, I let my TWA rock. i won’t lie, it was very hard. I was overweight back then and my self confidence wasn’t too high, so going around with hair like that (I was the only naturalist who wasn’t mixed in my whole school) was awful most of the time. over the summer for the first time, I didn’t do box braids either. this meant all the white kids at my summer camp got an eye full of my black hair and boy did I get some reactions. I had a boyfriend who liked to say it looked like pubic hair, friends who liked to just rub their hands all up in it, and random people who liked to make ignorant comments. on top of that, I didn’t have any real idea what I was doing. I didn’t know what products to use, I didn’t know how to style it, I wasn’t familiar with any techniques, I wasn’t sure how to accessorize it, and my scalp was just too hot up under there.
so, in September of 2011, right before my freshman year of high school, I got a relaxer and a weave. I regretted it pretty much immediately. instead of letting it grow out natural again, I kept getting relaxers and eventually cut it. by the summer of 2012, I had bone straight, ear length hair. that was officially my last relaxer. I had box braids for a while. and then in spring of 2013 I let the TWA out again. I was more prepared for what I would experience this time, so I think my overall experience was better. that summer, though, I messed up my hair something else! I bleached it twice, dyed it blue, and buzzed the sides. I regretted that almost immediately too lol. all that work I had put into proper, natural hair care all thrown to the wayside… so I had nothing else to do but pick up the pieces. I dyed my hair black and got a weave. that didn’t last too long since I ran track and sweat with a weave isn’t very fun. so I started doin box braids until my hair lengths were pretty much equal… which was about the winter or sprig of 2014, when I was into junior year of high school. now it’s the summer time and I done messed up again. I bleached my hair in mid July and the damage to my ends was real. I cut about an inch of curls off (half a year of progress I think) and I’ll be dying it black again soon. after that, I’ll probably be rocking twists and box braids until I graduate so that I can save my hair from myself lol. I’m currently taking hairfinity and biotin… I also do inverted scalp massages to keep the blood flow going and I’ll be adding Ancient Secrets natural hair growth oil to my regiment as soon as I get my next check. in short, I’ve been stuck in TWA limbo for the past 5 years. I’m sick of it, I want out 😔😭💇💔
If you google ‘Eric Garner’ I guarantee you that almost every article by major media outlets will list some or all of the following: Garner’s height, weight, his (alleged) past criminal history, and that the police supposedly thought he was “illegally” selling cigarettes. And all this information will be in the first few paragraphs.
Here’s what most corporate news outlets won’t make so readily available (you may have to dig for it): precisely how many officers ganged up on Garner, their complete police histories, any crimes they may have committed in their personal lives, and not even the names of all the involved officer’s are listed. And you may or may not have read that Garner clearly said he couldn’t breathe at least six times, and that multiple witnesses said Garner had just arrived on scene and broken up an altercation.
The media is hardly objective and they begin covering for the police and victimizing the victim very early on. These lopsided “facts” and seemingly minor omissions is only the beginning. Wait until it goes to court. Then you won’t believe how much news outlets, the police and defense attorneys will demonize Mr. Garner.
Unless you’re Black. Then this is an all too familiar pattern."
From Emmett Till to Rodney King to The Central Park Five to Oscar Grant to Amadou Diallo to Sean Bell to Trayvon Martin to Renisha McBride to Jonathan Ferrell to Jordan Davis to Eric Garner and so very many others…even though we’re always unarmed, there is never a shortage of disproportionately White juries eager to conclude that the act of merely existing while Black is always sufficient justification for inflicting brutality, imprisonment or murder onto any unfamiliar Black bodies
Seems like it’s always the same old song and dance whenever Black people seek justice from the system made to imprison us: Criminalizing Blackness — White people may commit crimes, but Black people are always viewed as criminals.